Gender Bias Against Fathers in Domestic Relations Cases

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The magazine of the American Bar Association’s

Family Law Section

Spring 1993

To The Editor:

My hat is off to the American Bar Association and the Editorial Board of the Family Advocate for their decision to devote an entire issue to “The Father’s Custody Case”, even though two members of your Board offered their resignations over the decision. Sadly, the magazine lacked the journalistic integrity to acknowledge the obvious legal conclusion that leapt out from every page:


Why did the magazine fail to promote an immediate end to the gender bias it freely acknowledged BUT FAILED to condemn?

Gender bias against fathers in domestic relations is so ingrained that most people fail to recognize it even when it is admitted. People who have not experienced the devastating consequences of appearing as a father in our nation’s divorce courts fail to recognize the discrimination from such bias. Imagine the horror and outrage which would have resulted if the following statements had been made about racial bias in our courts:

Many lawyers who responded to our survey believe there is no inherent bias in how they represent an African American criminal defendant versus a white defendant, but they concede that they handle African American cases differently. Like Norman Robbins of Birmingham, Michigan, many felt that generally both races come to court without any legal advantage or presumptions based on race. “However,” Robbins acknowledged, “most of our judges were raised in a white culture. We plan our presentation differently when representing an African American in order to overcome the sub-rosa inborn prejudice.”

A black man cannot simply show the prosecution failed to prove his guilt beyond a reasonable doubt, he must prove himself innocent.

Geoff Hamilton views judicial bias in terms of the human condition. “I suspect all of us–lawyers, judges, social workers have certain unconscious biases, i.e. blacks are more likely to commit crimes than whites. But, again, that may in fact be true as a general proposition.”

An African American and his attorney must convince the judge that the African American criminal defendant is a responsible citizen with a law abiding zeal that overcomes stereotypes of the African American criminal tendencies.

I only take African American criminal cases where there is a reasonable chance of winning as I have had a number of good cases in which the African American ‘wimped out’ and accepted a plea bargain. I test the African American client’s dedication to pleading innocent by asking for a bigger retainer and I have serious heart-to-heart talks with the client.

Thomas J. Jedinak of Columbus concedes that African American criminal defendants have a tougher time obtaining a not guilty verdict.

Geoff Hamilton of Honolulu, Hawaii put it more bluntly, “You start off with the proposition that the judge will presume your African American client is guilty as charged.

Other lawyers said that a few judges were openly suspicious of African American criminal
defendants pleading innocent. These courts look for ulterior motives, such as a desire to irritate the prosecutor.

A respondent who preferred to remain anonymous noted one important distinction between how he evaluated blacks and whites in child custody matters. When a black seeks custody of his or her children, he pays “more attention to the potential for violence, sexual perversions, and motives to reduce or obtain child support.”

George R. Holmes of Columbia, South Carolina, takes one giant step further. He says that the prosecutor must be “blatantly psychotic, for him not to find any Negro charged with a crime, guilty as charged”.

It is time for the domestic relations bar to take a long hard look at the unconstitutional treatment of fathers. The Family Law Section of the American Bar Association should take the lead and formally denounce the current gender bias as pervasive and unconstitutional. The National Congress for Men and Children requests the Family Advocate recommend the formation of GENDER BIAS COMMISSIONS to document the nature and extent of gender bias in all domestic relations matters. In addition, our Litigation Committee invites contributions to mount a major attack in federal court.

After our funding reaches $100,000 we will file a suit in federal court seeking to address such issues. The funds will only be spent on costs to bring the case, travel and out-of pocket expenses of attorneys and experts, data analysis and public relations; i.e. all legal and expert witnesses’ time will be donated or paid from other sources. The fund we have established is formally restricted by the Board of Directors and has been named: The National Association For the Advancement of Concerned Fathers (NAACF). All contributions are tax deductible. A complete accounting of the funds will be sent to all individuals making a donation of $100 or more and all other contributors who make a written request for an accounting.

As succinctly stated by the Editor, Arnold H. Rutkin, “limiting a mom’s or dad’s parenting to visits every other weekend or large blocks of the summer robs a child of a meaningful relationship with two parents and predisposes the child to a dysfunctional view of family life.” If the Family Advocate is dedicated to the best interest of children, it should actively pursue immediate and substantial reformation of the gender biased domestic relations policies and practices in the United States.

Phillip J. Holman, Esq.

Chair, Litigation Committee

National Congress For Men and Children

Treat Divorced Dads, and Their Kids, Fairly

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The June 23 op ed column by Michigan Department of Social Services Director Gerald Miller distorted data on child support and failed to acknowledge the devastation to children from their loss of fathers (“Child support comes in many forms”). Society scapegoats “deadbeat dads,” even though only 20 percent of noncustodial mothers pay child support. Fathers are not culprits; children want and need two parents. Instead of clamoring for draconian support enforcement, the DSS should recognize that denial of parental access and parental alienation are the most common forms of child abuse and merit severe criminal penalties. The removal of fathers from their children is the primary cause of social problems that cost taxpayers billions of dollars annually.

Children of divorce, especially boys score lower on reading and math tests than children from two parent households. They are absent more often, are more anxious, hostile and withdrawn, are less popular with their peers, and are twice as likely to drop out of high school or college. Boys in father custody households, however, fare as well as or better than boys from intact families.

Where fathers are allowed to be involved with their children, child support is paid. According to a U.S. Census Bureau report, full and timely payment of support was admitted by 90 percent of mothers with joint custody, and 79 percent where visitation was allowed. Yet according to the 1990 Census, only about 55 percent of fathers had visitation rights, and only 7 percent had joint custody.

Rather than spend taxpayer funds on Aid to Dependent Children and child care for mothers in school, or enforcing draconian legislation, government should allow and encourage fathers to share equally in caring for their children. Pending state legislation that would direct the loss of auto and occupational licenses for child support arrearages is poorly drafted and would destroy far more innocent victims than it would benefit. The amount of support collected would decrease.

How many fathers will commit suicide or unjustly face financial ruin before people recognize that we must treat fathers fairly? Courts refuse to consider the concerns of noncustodial parents: access to their children, accountability for the use of child support payments, the fairness of support awarded, and the outrageous legal cost fathers must incur to attempt to remain involved in our children’s lives.

Phillip J. Holman
Board Chair
National Congress for Men and Children
Michigan Chapter
Royal Oak